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Fault or Responsibility?

Hello Everyone, It has been a couple weeks since I wrote. As always, I hope you have been doing well. Lately, I have been encountering the issue of “Fault or Responsibility”. Often when we speak of fault, we refer to someone being wrong, failing at something, or making a mistake. When we speak of responsibility, we refer to someone being accountable or answerable for a task, activity, or something that was done or not done. So if someone is depressed, is it their fault or responsibility? I have heard several individuals describe their supports as being judgmental and telling them…

Managing when life gets busy.

Hello Everyone, I hope you have been doing well. Sorry I missed writing last week. It’s been very hectic in my world lately. So I would like to focus this week on ways to manage when life gets busy. There are many things in life we don’t have control over and often times those are the aspects we want to control the most. Unfortunately, that usually doesn’t work out very well. Trying to change someone else or change what your boss wants you to do, or cure/heal a family members illness is usually out of our hands. I’m sure you have…

Breaking a cycle.

Hi Everyone, Another week has gone past. How did you spend it? Were you focused on the positives? What did you appreciate? Sometimes it is hard to focus on the positives and what’s good in your life if there is a lot of pain, stress, or turmoil. Sometimes we get stuck in old patterns, even when we don’t want to be stuck. So how can you break such a pattern? One of the first steps is to recognize that there is a pattern or cycle. All of us can identify cycles in our life. Thinking negatively about ourselves, believing we can’t…

What’s the cost?

Hello Everyone, Hope you have been having a great week. I also hope that noticing the positives is getting easier and more routine. Sometimes you might think that focusing on the positives is just a game we play with our minds. As if we are fooling ourselves from the reality of our situation. Well I don’t know about you but typically anyone’s reality is based on his or her perception of things. If someone’s perceptions tend to be negative then their outlook on life, relationships and how they may view themselves is more than likely to be negative too. Do…

“FILL ‘ER UP”

Hi Everyone, Well as always, I hope you have been able to identify and focus on what’s been going well lately. Last night I had the opportunity to speak with a parent group. We were discussing ways to be a support and the various struggles involved. One of the messages I tried to leave them with is the idea of self-care. Self-care can mean numerous things to each of us. To me it essentially entails doing things for you that bring enjoyment. Maintaining self-care is important especially if you are feeling overwhelmed, struggling with a lack of interest or energy…

How flexible are you?

Hi Everyone, So what has been going well for you in the past week? I hope you have been trying to focus on that question more often than not. It really does help to focus more on the positives in life! A lot of people recently have been talking to me about getting or being stuck in “funks”. You know how some days you just feel irritable or blah. There might not be any particular reason, you are just in a mood or funk. Often times when this happens we believe we are stuck and can’t bend or move out…

This is hard!

Hi Everyone, Hope you were able to make your list of ten things that went well last week. You know that could be a weekly (or even daily) activity!! I’m sure some of you, and perhaps many of you found that suggestion to be a difficult task. This week I want to focus on what makes things so hard, even though we may realize that they would be helpful. If you have struggled for any length of time with low self-esteem, self-doubt or have learned to view yourself as a depressed or anxious individual, then chances are that identifying positives…

When will I feel better? How long do I have to use these strategies?

Hi Everyone, What went well this past week? See if you can name at least ten! You might want to write them down and review it each day. This is a pretty good strategy to help create and reinforce a more positive mind set. The more positive your thinking tends to be the less you will be feeling depressed or anxious. In other words the better you will feel. That’s really what I would like to talk about this week – feeling better. Often clients will ask me, “When will I feel better? How long does this take?” As you…

What do you ask yourself?

Hi Everyone, So what has been going well this week? Stop! Answer the question. There is definitely at least a few things you can list. The more you practice this and focus on the positives the more your mind set changes to be positive. Unless you prefer the negative mind set. You always have a choice. Ok, now proceed. So this week I was made aware of the fact that when someone is struggling with worries and negative self-talk, s/he is not asking themselves what they could be thinking about. They are usually not asking themselves, “How else could I…

What happens if things keep going well?

Hi everyone, What has been going well this past week? Take a minute to actually answer that question! Ok, now you can read the rest of this weeks blog. One of the concerns often brought up by anyone who has struggled with depression for awhile involves the anxiety and fear that occurs when things start going well. Although this is the goal, it is often uncomfortable. If someone you know has struggled with depression s/he is likely to have developed a view that, “depression is apart of who I am”. Sometimes, the view is, “I’m supposed to be depressed because…

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