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Selfish or Self-Care?

Hello Everyone, What’s been going well? What has your plan been? As I wrote about last time, you have the power to choose. The power to get out of bed, make that phone call, go for a walk, journal, etc. Since my last blog, I have been thinking about the hundreds and thousands of people I have worked with since the mid 1980’s. Those struggling with depression and anxiety undoubtedly have also struggled with self-care. Most of the time they are thinking about and/or helping others. They typically end up being last on the list of priorities. And that’s if…

Getting motivated. Who has the power?

Hi Everyone, Have you ever struggled with getting motivated? Perhaps you procrastinate every once and awhile (or daily, or weekly)! Sometimes we are fortunate and have some external forces that will help motivate us into action. This could be a boss, a parent, a teacher, a spouse, a friend, or even a pet. Many times we would say that it is “because of” my boss, spouse, pet, etc… that I got out of bed, or went for that walk or made that call. I would disagree! YOU DID IT! The external support of a friend, pet or spouse can encourage…

It’s time to put down the glass of water!

Hi Everyone, What has been going well? Are you noticing the positives? This week I want to talk about stress. Recently I read about a psychologist who was giving a presentation on stress management. She held up a glass of water and asked the audience how much does it weigh? The answers ranged from 6 ounces to 20 ounces. The psychologist pointed out that the actual weight doesn’t matter as much as how long you hold the glass. The longer you hold the glass, the heavier and more difficult it gets. Holding the glass is like holding stress. The longer…

What am I thinking?

Hello Everyone, Hope you have been having a good week. Was last week’s blog helpful? I hope so. This week I wanted to continue the theme of what keeps us stuck. As a cognitive therapist, I focus quite a bit on how people think about things. How they interpret situations and others. What they tend to tell themselves. If you are feeling depressed I’m willing to bet that you are likely to be saying a lot of negative comments. Such comments might include: I can’t, I’m not worthy; I should have done this; I shouldn’t have done that. Similarly, when…

Why do I continue to struggle with depression or anxiety?

Hi Everyone, This past week I have been thinking about, “What’s the problem?”. Often when people come to therapy they want to fix something. Anyone struggling with depression or anxiety will say they want to stop being depressed or stop being anxious. As you know, that’s easier said then done! But what does it really mean? It’s important to be specific. I am constantly worried about things. I obsess and catastrophize things. I don’t think I am valuable or important to anyone. I don’t feel worthy of anything. I am afraid that nothing will change. I won’t get better. I…

Getting Back on Track

Hello Everyone, Well it’s been three weeks since my last blog. No, this is not going to be a trend. I will get back to a weekly schedule. Actually getting back on track is what I would like to talk about this week. Like most people, we fall off the track every once an awhile. I certainly have these last few weeks! Falling off the track, unfortunately is quite common. This is especially common with individuals trying to diet. It is often evident in people trying to get sober. I would say it is a common process for pretty much…

Comfy Clothes

Hi Everyone, It’s been two weeks since my last blog. That means your list of what has been going well is quite long. Right?? This week I want to talk about what keeps us stuck. I know, I have written about it before and you have read about it before. So you might be asking, “Why is he writing about it again?” The answer is, I’m writing about it again because in order to maintain progress and continue moving forward we need to stay mindful of what we are doing and how we are thinking. When we get stuck we…

Is your auto-pilot on?

Hi Everyone, What about the past week was good? You don’t have to stop at one thing. List as many as you can. This week I want to focus on what’s effective. Take a look below at each column and review. See which responses you think are the more effective ways to cope. Try to identify a few reasons for each response that you pick. Talking to a support person about something that is upsetting you. Trying not to think about what bothers you. Normalizing the situation and pointing out to yourself that other people have similar struggles. Telling yourself…

Giving and doing.

Hello Everyone, What was the best thing about the past week? I hope you have trouble picking just one thing. As we celebrate Memorial Day this weekend, we are reminded of the military personnel who have given their lives for us and our country. It is a time to be thankful. It is also a time that we can take this example and give ourselves. Often when we struggle with depression or anxiety we are stuck in our head and we are focused on us. We tend to ruminate on what we don’t have, should have, and the why’s of…

Is being manipulative wrong?

Hello Everyone, Have you been having a good week? Before each of my posts, I typically encourage you to think about what’s been going well. Are you? This week I’d like you to think about the idea of being manipulative. What does this mean? Is it only negative or can manipulation be good? To manipulate means to influence, adapt, change, or manage. This can be for our own benefit or to help others. Chiropractors manipulate the spine and other body parts so we can move better. We use manipulation when doing certain math problems, which help us to figure out…

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