Another week to add to the list of positives in your life!
I realize that my optimism and push to look at the positives might really piss some people off. If it does, my guess is that there are few if any positives coming your way. Perhaps, you or someone you care about is dying. Perhaps you or someone is unemployed or hates their job. Perhaps you have chronic pain and know that it won’t get any better. These and other similar situations are awful. Sure you can put a positive spin on anything but really? The bottom line is that these situations, well for lack of a better word – suck.
In recent blogs, I have tried to address how life has ups and downs, that it is okay to feel sad and that the way to manage life is to focus on solutions and what you CAN do. Many times, especially in this day and age, we want everything NOW! Everything needs to be instantly. We want to feel better today. You know as well as I do, that this typically is not how it works. I remember several individuals tell me after 6 – 12 months of working on using the various strategies I describe in these blogs and in my book, that they are just now “getting it”. That after many months of perservering and sticking to it that they are feeling like they are in charge of their lives and their emotions. I recently read the following saying by Albert Einstein, “We can’t solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them.” If we continue to think that things won’t work out for us, they won’t. Another quote to keep in mind by I believe Abraham Lincoln is, “If you think you are right, or you think you are wrong, you are right.” We have known for centuries that what we think directly influences our beliefs, feelings and actions. If you are not feeling the way you want, if you are not doing what you want, take a moment or two to tune in. Notice what you are thinking about and telling yourself. You are your best motivator. You talk yourself into and out of anything and everything you do or don’t do. The buck starts and ends with you. Therefore, you have significant input and value.
We all wish we could have what we want when we want it. Somethings take longer than others. Stay focused on your passion and what you want. If you don’t know what you are passionate about, make that the goal. That goal does not need to be achieved now. Perhaps the first step is to make a list of interests or previous interests. The next step might be to evaluate each interest and rank them. There can be several other steps before you actually identify your passion.
Remember to break things down into achievable steps. Stay focused on the step in front of you, lest we trip. With each step we take, we get closer to our goal and having what we want.
~ Dr. Lou